TED TALK 18: Giving an Apology

Don Pugh


Iím promoting TED, treating everyone equally for a safe and friendly environment for our school. A fortnight ago we talked about setting goals to map the pathways in our lives. To-dayís talk is about apologizing effectively.Students often visit student services for mediation of disputes and one or both students apologise to solve the problem.Hereís how to do it.


  1. Say what you did, why and your thoughts on the hurt it may have caused.


  1. Say what youíll do in the future such as promising not to do it again.


  1. Say youíre sorry and that you regret your actions.


A good apology gives the other student respect and when sincere, itís a new beginning that requires honesty, forgiveness and courage.

Now for fun I need a volunteer.


Shannon:Iím upset with you calling me names like ĎSalvoí because of my clothes.


Lindsey: I did say embarrassing things about your clothes, which could be upsetting.I wanted to be popular with my friends and I didnít think about your feelings.I promise to not say anything bad in future and Iím sorry.


Shannon: Thanks for your apology.


Remember, a real apology says what happened, why and its possible effects. It says how youíll fix the problem and that youíre sorry.Apologising well gives a new beginning, making this school a safe and friendly place.