TED TALK 11:  CARING FOR OTHERS

Don Pugh

 

We welcome this opportunity to promote TED, treating everyone decently in the school as part of a safe and friendly environment. A fortnight ago our talk recommended responsible behaviour.  Our message this week is caring for others.  Nothing is more annoying than hearing students calling each other names.  A caring school environment is one free from this verbal abuse and this is essential for learning.  Here’s how to be caring.

 

Be supportive of other students:  Take the time to listen to them when they have a problem without interrupting.  Show interest by nodding and eye contact. Don’t give your opinion or make judgments.

 

Be empathetic.  This means putting yourselves in the other persons shoes, and be sensitive to how they are feeling.  Ask yourself, ‘how would I feel if I had a fight with my parents and no breakfast before coming to school.  What would I do in that situation?’

 

Treat everyone with respect:  We’re all equal regardless of our background.  Avoid putdowns, teasing or bullying.  Instead, look for opportunities to help and make positive comments about others.

 

Now for fun, let’s have a role play. Don’t do this.

 

Lindsey:  Walking along, trips and hurts self, screaming: ‘Ouch, I twisted my ankle and that really hurts badly. Oh, Oh. I did myself an injury.’

 

Shannon: Laughing, Ha, Ha Ho Ho, that was really funny, Lindsey.  Do it again so I can get you on funniest home videos.  You’re such a clumsy oaf.  Why don’t you watch where you’re walking?  Going to wag school now are you?

 

Try this caring approach.

 

Lindsey:  Walking along, trips and hurts self, screaming: ‘Ouch, I twisted my ankle and that really hurts badly. Oh, Oh. I did myself an injury.’

 

Shannon: ‘That looks nasty trip, Lindsey.  May I look at your ankle?  It looks badly swollen.  May I help you to the nurse to get some ice to put on it?  That should help remove the pain and reduce the swelling.’

 

Lindsey:  Hey, I’d appreciate that Shannon.  I like your caring attitude.  You’re a really good friend.  Thanks.

 

Remember, caring means understanding how others feel.  Everyone has a right to enjoy school, free from harassment.  Treat others as you wish to be treated yourselves.  Treating everyone decently by being caring helps to make this school a safe friendly environment.