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DON'T LET IT GET YOU DOWN\SELF-ESTEEM IS UP TO YOU, SAYS A TEEN THERAPIST WHO'S BEEN THERE.
Date: 06-10-2002; Publication: The London Free Press; Author: CHRISTL DABU, SPECIAL TO THE FREE PRESS

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The London Free Press DON'T LET IT GET YOU DOWN\SELF-ESTEEM IS UP TO YOU, SAYS A TEEN THERAPIST WHO'S BEEN THERE. BYLINE: CHRISTL DABU, SPECIAL TO THE FREE PRESS EDITION: Final SECTION: Lifestyles

Karyn Gordon was a shy 13-year-old when a teacher told her distressing news: She had a learning disability and would be lucky if she got through high school.

It didn't help her self-esteem when her marks came in low, despite studying hard. Getting 38 per cent for her first high school English exam, however, became a turning point in her life.

"I will never forget this day. I'm sitting on this chair feeling completely devastated, completely helpless, and I'm angry at this teacher who said this. I'm angry at my parents. I'm angry at my friends. I'm angry at myself," says Gordon 15 years later, as she addresses the issue of self-esteem before a few hundred Toronto high school students at East York Collegiate Institute.

"All of a sudden, I realized I cannot control the fact that I have a learning disability, but I can control how to respond to this disability."

Gordon, 28, is a teen therapist with a private counselling practice in Toronto and Newmarket. She has a bachelor's degree in psychology, a master's degree in counselling and is currently working toward her doctorate in marriage and family therapy.

Gordon tells teens her choice to change her negative attitude transformed her self-esteem.

"My personal greatest struggle was my own self-esteem, but I started making choices in terms of applying myself to my school and getting involved more in my school," she says.

"So I started making these baby steps and started feeling better, without realizing those were the steps toward my self-esteem."

Born in Mississauga and raised in Newmarket, Gordon was so young when she started counselling at 22 that only teens would see her. After listening to patients close to her age group, she realized the need to reach out to more youth outside her office.

Her efforts to achieve her goals led to her high school tours across North America (currently sponsored by Pepsi, Pizza Pizza and Doritos) where she has presented talks on self-esteem and motivation to more than 150,000 teens over the last five years, her international music talk show Spill Your Guts (broadcast across Canada, U.S. and Singapore), on which she interviewed rock stars like 98o and Matchbox 20 about their struggles as teens, and her book on self-esteem, Analyze Yourself: A Teen's Guide to Understanding Their Friends, Parents and Themselves (Castle Quay Books Canada).

Her mentors include her dad, a Baptist pastor and her mom, a hospital chaplain. She says her faith is a factor that motivated her to try to achieve her goals.

Gordon says self-esteem is the No. 1 issue faced by youth she counsels for depression, stress or family and relationship problems.

She suggests three ways to build a healthy self-esteem:

- Seek out mentors and friends whom you want to be like and who encourage and challenge you in a positive way;

- Set realistic goals;

- Stop blaming others and yourself and instead choose to take ownership of your attitude and decisions.

She says what's most fulfilling to her is when teens realize attaining healthy self- esteem is possible, although it can be a long and difficult process.

"The greatest lesson I've learned from all this, and it's really taught by my mother, is that success is about trying; success is not about results."

For more information on Karyn Gordon's self-esteem projects, workshops and counselling for teens and parents call 416-686-7328, or log on to www.karyngordon.com.

ILLUSTRATION: photo by Ernest Doroszuk Special to the Free Press\SOME DISABILITY: Once diagnosed as having a learning disability, Karyn Gordonfought back, earned a master's degree in counselling and is working on adoctorate in family therapy. She has a widespread practice advising teens onpersonal struggles.

KEYWORDS: MENTAL HEALTH; TEENAGERS

CHRISTL DABU, SPECIAL TO THE FREE PRESS, DON'T LET IT GET YOU DOWN\SELF-ESTEEM IS UP TO YOU, SAYS A TEEN THERAPIST WHO'S BEEN THERE.. , The London Free Press, 06-10-2002, pp D1.

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